I’m not a blogger, I’m an observer and problem solver.

These are some of my observations and thoughts about our emotional lives.

Her Locks and Channels

I attended the Hub City Writers Conference in Spartanburg, South Carolina. I wanted to learn more about writing so I signed up for a poetry class with Kate Daniels, Professor of Creative Writing, Vanderbilt University. I had never written a poem until that day and I...

Listening to Yourself Takes Guts

When I was about 14 years old I heard my mother’s friend say, “I guess I should be worried when I start talking to myself.” I really thought she was cool, but I was conflicted about what she’d said because it felt weird to me to not have some internal communication...

Giving Form to Feelings with Paint

“I feel stuck going back and forth on this decision,” she said. “I feel like it has power over me!” I get what she’s telling me, not just from a professional standpoint, but from a personal one too. Some decisions are easy to make, like taking a sip of spoiled milk...

One Tiny Peep

I found a baby bird and he lived for three days. I fed him with a syringe, and when he wasn’t sleeping nested in one of my old scarves, he danced around on my desk. We named him Peep. Peep died in front of me, about eight o’clock Sunday morning. I was sitting...

Why Do We Hide From The Truth

Why do we spend so much emotional energy hiding from the truth? Although I’d started and stopped tons of blog posts about how we communicate what we feel, nothing was coming together. So I thought I’d take a break. I told myself I was just distracted and busy and that...

Grief is a Kite

Grief is the universal emotion. Every one of us will grieve someone or something at some point in our lives. Our challenge is not to hide from grief, but to feel it. I know it’s an overwhelming emotion. I think this is because we fear that we may never return to...

Are You A Ruminator?

Liz is angry at her husband’s doctor. Henry, her husband of twenty-one years died six months ago of heart related issues and Liz has been spitting mad ever since. When her friends ask if she’s talked about her feelings with the doctor, Liz screams… NO! ARE YOU...

Self Critical or Self Compassionate?

Last week I overheard two women talking in Target, “oh…I’m so stupid” one said to the other, “I can’t believe I forgot to make the cupcakes for her party, again.” I smiled as I pushed my cart past them, but I was wondering how calling herself stupid would affect...
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