by Lisa Holland, PhD | General
Your relationships are living breathing systems that share, create, do and feel. Although each piece is important, you need feeling in order for your relationship to survive. Oh, wrong…your love relationship can can survive without feeling, but not very well or...
by Lisa Holland, PhD | General
I hear people talk about “closure” a lot – they’ll say something like, I just need to get closure on this. It seems they see closure as a psychological door that can permanently shut away their emotional pain. Okay, if closure supposedly shuts away the emotional...
by Lisa Holland, PhD | General
It happened. I felt sad and conflicted and angry and hurt. No one said anything about it to me. No one offered me comfort. They acted like it never happened. But now, they say forget it. I question if was real – if what I’m feeling is real. I try to forget it,...
by Lisa Holland, PhD | General
“I never thought of forgiving my eight year-old self,” Amanda said. We were discussing her reactions to a talk I’d just given to a women’s group titled, How What We Say To Ourselves Affects How We Feel. In the talk, I’d asked the women to think about a mistake they’d...
by Lisa Holland, PhD | General
A few weeks ago I ran into one of my favorite professors from graduate school. We hugged and squealed and then I asked if she’d like to have coffee and catch up a bit? Oh, my gosh – well – I could – no – I better not, I have a million things to...
by Lisa Holland, PhD | General
“Just give it time and you’ll be fine,” he told Allie. “I’m not worried about being fine right now Sam, this is sad and I want to feel it.” Just give it time, is a common fix-all response of people who mean well and of people who want to avoid feeling an emotion....
