Why Do We Hide From The Truth

by | May 15, 2014 | General

Why do we spend so much emotional energy hiding from the truth? Although I’d started and stopped tons of blog posts about how we communicate what we feel, nothing was coming together. So I thought I’d take a break. I told myself I was just distracted and busy and that...

Grief is a Kite

by | May 3, 2013 | General

Grief is the universal emotion. Every one of us will grieve someone or something at some point in our lives. Our challenge is not to hide from grief, but to feel it. I know it’s an overwhelming emotion. I think this is because we fear that we may never return to...

Are You A Ruminator?

by | Nov 29, 2012 | General

Liz is angry at her husband’s doctor. Henry, her husband of twenty-one years died six months ago of heart related issues and Liz has been spitting mad ever since. When her friends ask if she’s talked about her feelings with the doctor, Liz screams… NO! ARE YOU...

Self Critical or Self Compassionate?

by | Sep 13, 2012 | General

Last week I overheard two women talking in Target, “oh…I’m so stupid” one said to the other, “I can’t believe I forgot to make the cupcakes for her party, again.” I smiled as I pushed my cart past them, but I was wondering how calling herself stupid would affect...

Knowing What Feels Right For You

by | Jul 25, 2012 | General

I don’t know the exact word she said that caused the a picture of a compass to pop into my mind, but I immediately put down my note pad and stood up. It’s like you have a compass in your heart, I said. Since the heart-compass idea opened up a new therapeutic...

Are You Too Uncomfortable To Offer Comfort?

by | Jun 14, 2012 | General

Your relationships are living breathing systems that share, create, do and feel. Although each piece is important, you need feeling in order for your relationship to survive. Oh, wrong…your love relationship can can survive without feeling, but not very well or...