Self Critical or Self Compassionate?

by | Sep 13, 2012 | General

Last week I overheard two women talking in Target, “oh…I’m so stupid” one said to the other, “I can’t believe I forgot to make the cupcakes for her party, again.” I smiled as I pushed my cart past them, but I was wondering how calling herself stupid would affect...

Knowing What Feels Right For You

by | Jul 25, 2012 | General

I don’t know the exact word she said that caused the a picture of a compass to pop into my mind, but I immediately put down my note pad and stood up. It’s like you have a compass in your heart, I said. Since the heart-compass idea opened up a new therapeutic...

Are You Too Uncomfortable To Offer Comfort?

by | Jun 14, 2012 | General

Your relationships are living breathing systems that share, create, do and feel. Although each piece is important, you need feeling in order for your relationship to survive. Oh, wrong…your love relationship can can survive without feeling, but not very well or...

There’s No Such Thing As Closure

by | May 10, 2012 | General

I hear people talk about “closure” a lot – they’ll say something like, I just need to get closure on this. It seems they see closure as a psychological door that can permanently shut away their emotional pain. Okay, if closure supposedly shuts away the emotional...

Get Out of the Nowhere Place

by | Apr 30, 2012 | General

It happened. I felt sad and conflicted and angry and hurt. No one said anything about it to me. No one offered me comfort.  They acted like it never happened. But now, they say forget it. I question if  was real – if what I’m feeling is real. I try to forget it,...