It’s Not Work or Life, It’s All Life

~ This site is temporary because my original site was hacked. We're planning to be fully up again in July.  

I hear people say they want to leave work at the office or go to work so they can escape family drama. As much as you'd like to separate yourself, emotion will follow you. You have primary emotional defenses that have protected you for years. Some help you while others can hurt you and they show up, for example as avoidance, guilt, distrust, fear of success or failure.

What's the answer? I believe the biggest answer lies in knowing yourself. In knowing what messages you've internalized and how you work confirm or deny these messages in your life.

For people in work environments, it's about knowing yourself too, but you also want a here-and-now understanding of the emotional defenses that affect your flow and interactions.

Speaking Information

South Carolina Title Insurance Conference

  • October 20 . 2015, Columbia
South Carolina Consturuction Law Conference
  • September 18 & 19 . 2015, Charleston

South Carolina School Boards Association

  • August 24 . 2015, Myrtle Beach

South Carolina Bar Association

  • February 24 . 2015: Columbia


University of South Carolina Children’s Law Center: Office of General
  • February 21, 2014: Columbia
South Carolina Bar Association and the Charleston School of Law
  • February 27, 2014: Charleston
Managing Your BrainStorm South Carolina Bar Association
  • December 1, 2013: Columbia
Cognitive Tools to Help Lawyers Manage Emotional Depletion
  • South Carolina Bar Association
  • October 16th, 2013: Columbia
Cognitive Behavioral Techniques in Emotionally Charged Situations
  • South Carolina Bar Association
  • October 9 & November 5, 2013: Columbia
Cognitive Tools to Help Lawyers Manage Emotional Suppression
  • North Carolina Association of Defense Lawyers
  • June 13, 2013: Hilton Head
Suppressing Emotion and Anxiety
  • American Board of Vocational Experts
  • April, 2013: Scottsdale, Arizona
Just the Facts Ma'am: Using Your Emotional Brain
  • South Carolina Bar Association
  • February 15, 2013: Columbia
How Suppressing Your Emotions Can Lead to Anxiety
  • South Carolina Bar Association
  • November 16, 2012: Columbia



I created the Heart Spa because I wanted to change the way women receive health information – to be more in sync with the way they learn. Using a word women get, “Spa,” I combined a mini-spa experience with insights into specific emotions that have an effect on heart functioning.

At the 2012 Heart Spa, I met a woman I’ll never forget As we walked across the room she said, “my work let me off to come here tonight. I’ve lived through cancer and a heart attack and I’ve always worked for other people; I’ve never had a massage.” I could feel the tears welling up in my eyes. She’s why I do this.

These are pictures from the Columbia Heart Spa Event, 2010